My FIGGI Life with Jeanne

Spiritual Coaching & How it Empowered Me

Episode Summary

Jeanne speaks to her personal spiritual mentor, Amera Rose. They explore what spiritual mentorship is, who its for, and how it can empower you. Jeanne shares her personal path and how her sessions with Amera helped her with self-love, self-acceptance and moving toward inner-peace.

Episode Notes

Jeanne talks about her personal journey with spiritual coaching and how this is different from conventional therapy. She explores what led her to seek something different and how she came to meet Amera Rose, her spiritual mentor.

After years of therapy for her panic disorder, and to make peace with her past, Jeanne needed something more. A different approach and help on a different level. Enter, spiritual mentorship and more specifically her mentor, Amera Rose. 

This episode explores Jeanne's challenges with self-love, self-acceptance, and how she sought inner peace from her childhood demons. It takes a look at alternative assistance for those dealing with anxiety and inner issues of self worth. Amera and Jeanne explore, in depth, what spiritual coaching is and what it is not, whether its for you and how to to go about finding a spiritual mentor that meets your needs and is able to guide you in the best way.

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Episode Transcription

Amera Rose Spiritual Coaching

Jeanne: [00:00:00] Hello, my FIGGI goddess. Are you curious about spiritual coaching? Have you ever wondered if spiritual coaching is for you? Well, we discuss all your burning questions with my spiritual mentor Amera Rose. This episode is for everyone, no matter your religious, or non-religious orientation. I'll also share my personal path with you and how I came to decide on spiritual coaching, which may give you some extra insight, so stay tuned.

Show Intro: Welcome Goddess to Your Sacred Space. This is the My FIGGI Life podcast where we openly discuss life's wins and losses on our journeys to self discovery. This is your best life. This is your FIGGI life. And now here is your host Jeanne.

Jeanne: Let me start my introduction of our guest by saying that she truly changed my life. [00:01:00] She really allowed me to explore what I needed to in my own way and time, and I'm so happy to have her on the show. Our guest today is the one and only Amera Rose. She has been holding space and guiding women during times of transformation for decades. What once started as supporting her clients as a professional midwife transformed into being a midwife for the soul. How awesome is that? She believes birth can manifest in many forms as we all have the opportunity to birth new life, new versions of ourselves and everything that we are made to bring into this world.

She has a long and impressive list of credentials, which include a master's degree in educational science. She's a certified professional midwife, law of attraction coach, life and success coach, and a transformational life coach. Amera is also qualified in clinical hypnotherapy and is a neurolinguistic [00:02:00] programming practitioner. It doesn't end there though. Her expertise and experience are vast, and I urge you to check this out for yourself on her website through you by Design Dot. 

Amera: Thank you for this beautiful introduction.

Jeanne: So I think I met you at a time in my life where I felt that, and I think we'll explore [00:05:00] this a little bit more, that there was more, and I needed help on a different level. So as you know, I have panic disorder and I've been struggling with this anxiety disorder for a pretty long time. And I also have issues of childhood trauma and all of that that came together and I spent many years in therapy, but I came to a point where I felt I needed something different.

So I think that really leads us into the, the big question of the moment, which I think we will continuously explore through the episode, but that is what is spiritual coaching? So is it correct for me to refer to you as a spiritual coach or do you use the term life coach? Like how would you define it?

Amera: Well in the end, in my opinion, it's a name like, I mean, one day I can call myself, a spiritual mentor the other day, a transformational life coach. I think at the end what really matters is like the work you're doing with your clients. [00:06:00] But yes, I would say it says like spiritual life coaching, and I would consider myself a spiritual mentor. For me, mentoring is more the kind of work that I'm doing because sometimes people, when they hear life coaching, they have a certain image or you know, certain things that come up that don't resonate a lot with what I'm doing. So yeah, it's more like spiritual mentoring, I would say, or spiritual life coaching.

Jeanne: That's a wonderful way to put it. I also really prefer the word mentoring to coaching as well. 

Amera: It's more like the deep inner work, you know, like coaching. Sometimes it's really what is your goal? And I help you along the journey, how to get there. And I would say my work is much deeper. It's more about the inner healing and you know, the inner transformation and the guidance and the reconnecting and realigning with yourself. So I would say it's more than just regular. Yeah, if that makes sense. 

Jeanne: For sure. It, for me [00:07:00] completely, because I've been through it now with you, but it does have much more profound impact, I think, a very deep impact on your life if you're ready for it. The reason why I went to spiritual coaching, I think I actually went through two series of sessions with you because, uh, I felt so enlightened by everything I learned. I wanted to continue my journey. But initially it was, I think as you recall, I had severe issues with self-acceptance and self love, and a lot of that was reflected on my body image and I think why that was so difficult for me is because as I now refer to it, in my other life, in that professional career, I was in a space where I needed to be super strong all the time. I couldn't be seen to be weak or not in control or assertive or confident. And then it makes that whole kind of experience with you not being in a good space with self love almost like [00:08:00] you're ashamed of it. And like you have to hide it, which makes it worse. You know? 

Amera: Mm. 

Jeanne: So this is definitely one of the reasons I came. And the, the other one was one we also spoke about a lot, which was, I was really hungry for a sense of inner peace. 

Amera: There are a lot of like life situations and reasons and, you know, circumstances why people reach a point in their life where they are ready to seek out help and, and reach out for someone and what I realized is that mostly it's that they kind of, they're in a point in their life where they tried out a lot of things. They tried maybe therapy, counseling, you know, or trying to just keep up with life, something like this. And then they realized there is something more I need to do some deeper work . You know, I have to dig deeper and do something which goes beyond and often maybe they are at a crossroads in their lives, right? That could also be one thing, and that's sometimes, [00:09:00] or it's oftentimes a point where they reach out. And yes, what you said about the self love piece and also the inner-peace that are very common things, people find me or come to me for.

I don't know why this is, maybe it's because it's the kind of work that I do. Like every coach and every mentor has like a specific niche or like specific topics. And I would say like energetically, I'm kind of radiating this piece because it has been also an important piece in my own journey of feeling.

Yeah. So I would say like, as I said at the beginning, like clients and, and mentors kind of find each other energetically. So, yeah, maybe that's also something that, you know, people feel from the beginning when they find the website or you know, when we do the first three sessions and then it clicks and then it's, you know, the piece you're working on.

Jeanne: That's very true. I think that's the most important thing, maybe, is that you have to have that [00:10:00] kind of energetic synergy with the person you're taking this journey with because it's really difficult work. You're very vulnerable in that space. Yeah, and it's not easy to kind of share these inner fears with somebody. Being able to connect with that person just makes the journey so much more meaningful. 

Amera: Absolutely. I think that also in therapy counseling, and especially in in a work like this, for me, it's kind of the basic, or like the most important part, that it has to be a real alignment with a client and the coach otherwise as you said, you wouldn't open up, you wouldn't have the trust to really go on this transformational journey.

Jeanne: Yeah, for sure. Yeah, I think that's the most important thing. So I have some key questions I want to ask you. When I first came to you, I had a history of being in therapy for the various things that I knew I needed to deal with. But as I also explained to you, I came to a point where I felt like in therapy, I was continually rehashing [00:13:00] everything that had happened. Like I was never getting to a point where I could just say "okay, I'm at peace with it. It's over." I want to move forward. I wanted to move in a forward direction, you know? And it felt like, stepping back all the time. So would you define this type of mentorship? As we say, it's spiritual mentorship as therapy? Because, you know, I'm not an expert, but the entire process feels completely different to me. A lot more holistic and natural. And free. 

Amera: Ah, yeah, for sure. Like there, I wouldn't, I mean, I'm not a therapist. I mean, I worked in counseling and all of this, so I did some deeper work with clients, but no, I'm not a therapist. And it's also, it's very different from therapy, like as you said therapy, especially like the psychoanalytic therapy is more going back to your inner-child and see where do your issues come from or stem from. So it's more this perspective on, you know, seeing what was there, what needs to be healed. [00:14:00] Spiritual mentoring is more about, for me, it's more like really guiding my clients back to their own inner truth, to their own inner wisdom. I mean, you can give it different names. Like some say it's your soul, some say it's your highest self, or you inner being, or you know, however you want to call it.

It's this piece of you that's whole and that is connected to this greater universe. Yeah. You know, there are also, again, different names for it. As a spiritual mentor, I would see myself as someone holding space and guiding my clients back to reconnecting and realigning to this part, which is always there, you know?

Jeanne: Yeah. 

Amera: Which is always clouded or maybe very kind of hidden somewhere.

Jeanne: Yes, it's dormant. 

Amera: It might be dormant or you may be disconnected from it, but it's always there because we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Yeah. So I would say it's really about, realigning and seeing how to [00:15:00] reconnect to that part inside of you.

Jeanne: Oh, wow. 

Amera: And for me, that's where all the wisdom and all the answers are really found. I really believe that. You could say something that a lot of people are saying, like in quotes and blah, blah, blah, but I really believe this, like I had a lot of experiences myself and also with my clients. So, For me, it's, a truth. 

Jeanne: Yes, of course. There are so many things I want to get through but I find it difficult to proceed because , I'm so drawn in. Every time you speak, I remember even from our sessions I was always thinking: "Oh my gosh, we don't have enough time to have to hash out all of these things."

There's so many questions, but it's very true it is a spiritual journey and this is just from what you were saying now. There are so many words for it. There are so many ways to refer to it, and this is also something that I really appreciated in your process. Everything is, it's an open space. So you are not, you never feel forced [00:16:00] to see things a certain way or call things a certain way or believe in things a certain way. It's your journey and you always make that very clear, and I think that's super important because it's not a religious thing, right? It's a spiritual thing, and how you define that is, is completely up to you. 

Amera: Absolutely, and that, I mean, as I already mentioned, there might be different mentors out there who do this differently, but for me it's really holding the space and opening the space for my clients to find their own truth that can be very different from the truth of, you know, someone else. So, yeah. Yes, absolutely. And you know, I would never, I would always be very skeptical if someone wants to tell you what's true or telling you in which direction to go. 

Jeanne: Yeah. And I think this reminds me of something super profound. You told me in one of our sessions and we were talking exactly about this topic, and I was having difficulty with it. This new spiritual [00:17:00] exploration I was doing with you, and I was enjoying the journey you were showing me and the depth I thought I was reaching in the spiritual journey. But it was strange to me because other people are not necessarily there and I would never want to force anything on them. And one specific example I gave you is the respect that my husband and I have for each other because he has a completely different way of seeing things than I do. And you told me that we have to have love and patience with those who see things different from us and and respect that. And I have always remembered those words because you know, you have situations in life, when its sometimes difficult to remember that, but that was, that rings so true for me, and I think I actually wrote it in my gratitude journal one morning that you you said that. 

Amera: Oh, . That's good to know. Yeah. No, and it's, I mean, even I have to remind myself of that truth as well. We are all on a [00:18:00] journey, right? Through life. And this journey can look so different for each and every one of us. And there is nothing to judge or, you know, compare. We are all different. We all have the different background. We all have different karma, different past lives, even if you go back like this. So yeah, and we all have different purposes for this lifetime. We all have different things to complete, to learn to heal from. So yeah, absolutely. We all have different beliefs and that's all. That's actually the beauty of life, right? That is the beauty of our human experience here. 

Jeanne: So I want to go back quickly to what we were talking about in terms of this is different than therapy and how it is different. And I want to make this very clear to our listeners. As I've said before, I do have panic disorder and I have a wonderful psychiatrist that has been extremely helpful and supportive in my journey with my medication I need to take and helping me [00:19:00] to find a space where I feel comfortable with that. But this is one very important thing I think and I think this is also why I have so much respect for you, is you still have respect for that part, right? That there is sometimes a necessity to have that kind of medical intervention because, I mean, before I met you, I actually had, I don't know what you call it, a connection call or you know, where you speak to...

Amera: A discovery call. 

Jeanne: Yeah, a discovery call and you know, one of the first things she said to me was: :Oh, no, no, no. You shouldn't be on these medications. You know, we should get you on these holistic things or these natural aids." And am I right to be kind of weary of that? Because there's also nothing wrong with having to take medication to live a better quality life. 

Amera: Oh, absolutely. I mean, we discussed this a lot. There is actually nothing wrong or right, it's just the way you use things. And also depending on your own, as we said, like on your own journey or your own point of [00:20:00] life where you're at right now. Right? So if you have a history, for example, of mental disorders or whatever of course it's good to have some regular medication. And depending on your journey, maybe you will get off of these, you know, at a certain point in time or not. But it doesn't matter. It's just for some, it's part of the journey. So there is nothing that should be judged or something that should be completely called wrong or the other thing's Right, or this stuff. And I don't believe in this. I believe in really coexisting modalities and therapies. 

Jeanne: That's a wonderful way to put it: coexisting modality. I love that. 

Amera: Also when you look in regular medicine I mean, you know, I have a background in as a midwife, I worked in the medical field, so I am very familiar with this discussion around regular medicine or holistic medicine. So for me it was never a question either or, but like it has to be [00:21:00] coexistent, it has to be in partnership with each other. And I mean, it's a holistic approach to what gets you to a space where you're healthy and comfortable and balanced. And that exact approach is different for everybody because everybody comes from a different background, different needs.

Jeanne: So I want to talk a little bit about your method, and this is something that has kind of stuck with me. When we first met and I had decided to do the sessions with you, you sent me a questionnaire that I needed to complete before we started and, um, I must say it took me quite a while to answer it. Some, well, most of the answers or most of the questions to me were pretty profound questions, not questions that you just have an easy snap answer to, especially if you find yourself in this space where you feel there's [00:22:00] more, but you're not a hundred percent sure what that more looks like. So it helped me a lot because it really helped me to sit down and really think about this and really define what exactly it is that I want from this, and why did I choose you to guide me through this journey. I'm going to highlight some specific questions that were pretty profound to me, but I was just wondering: How does this go in a culture or society where we are used to quick wins and quick gratification, and we want easy fixes?

I mean, does everybody just complete it and they have no issue with it, or are there many that just decide listen, this is way too much for me. 

Amera: That's a good question. For me, I set up this questionnaire to really get to know my clients or my prospective clients on a deeper level because I really want to help them on their journey. [00:23:00] So it's really getting to know them. But on the other hand, as you said, really sitting down and then answering all these questions in a deep and profound way. It's the moment where the healing and the transformation already starts, right? And I think it already says it in the intro of the questionnaire. Its like journaling and it can be very healing and transformational. 

So really digging deep into these questions is kind of a heroic journaling, you know . I wouldn't even consider it as a method, but yeah. It's really, it has these two components and it also shows that when you are ready to do the coaching, you are ready to put in the work to answer the questions, right?

Jeanne: Yes. 

Amera: So someone who is not willing to commit to their own inner work and healing and transformational healing; I think that would be a little bit too much for them. So it really shows if someone is ready for this [00:24:00] transformational journey, and I think that's the key also in terms of this journey .

Jeanne: I really kind of thought and saw you as a guide, but I needed to do the work because at the end of the day, you can't do the transformation for me. You have to do it yourself. And as you know, I also have some experience in coaching, but more in a professional environment. And this is something that I know is very frustrating because I always used to say, when I'm coaching teams, there are three types of leaders. The leaders who are ready for change and want change and do their best to see that change realized and they're super committed. Then there are those that think they're ready. They really do honestly believe that they're ready. But once the work starts, it's like, Oh, wait a minute. I think this is a little bit too much for me. And then those that are just there because either the company paid for them to be there, like they couldn't care less. So this is why I was [00:25:00] wondering how it is for you to deal with this kind of mindset, this cultural mindset that we have? Because I'm sure many people that come to you expect you to have the magic trick, you know? And just fix everything. 

Amera: I mean, yeah. That's why I do free discovery calls where you get to know each other. And I think I already make it very clear at the beginning, even in these calls, that I'm not someone you know who's telling you do this and do that, and I show you how to get from A to Z or whatever you want to call it. I'm more like the space holder and the guide. You know, and holding the space, guiding you to do your own inner work. And I think these calls, and I also have a small questionnaire before you enter discovery call. And it's already when people are not ready, you can see it in the answers. They are very like short. Sometimes I discuss it with them in the discovery session. So that's the reason why you do these sessions to really make clear not only if you're good fit, [00:26:00] working together, but also to see if you're ready to put in the commitment timewise money wise of course, but also inner work is real work.

Jeanne: This is also something that I always believe, but you articulated so well to me is we all want to see change, but it's weird to me and it's difficult for me to understand that we are willing to put time and effort into our jobs, into cooking, being a mom, being a wife, running the household, but we are not willing to invest that time in ourselves. And the irony of thatis that it is you yourself going through all these motions. So if, if you're not willing to build a foundation that keeps the engine running, everything else can eventually fall apart. Right? 

Amera: Exactly. Yeah, that's true. Absolutely. 

So you said spiritual coaching is right for someone who is willing to make a commitment to their own inner healing and [00:27:00] someone who has to come to a point in her life where she wants to take the journey one step further and is therefore reaching out to somebody to go to the next level. Is that the reason that you would use to define this questionnaire and your method? 

Yes, I would. In the end, the actual sessions, the mentorship program can look very different in the end, as I said, people come from different walks of life with different life situations, and they are at different points in their life and have different questions and things going on. So in the end it can look very different, but yes, in general, yeah. It's exactly how you articulated it before.

Jeanne: So can we explore some of the questions right. From my questionnaire that I received that stood out to me and I think I struggled with the most, but definitely gave me the most food for thought. I think it's part of the first question, it's a double question. And the second half is, why did I want to work with you? [00:28:00] And of course I had the whole color thing going, but it, that was a really difficult thing to answer. At that moment, you're so unsure as to where this path is gonna lead, and I think that's the perfect question to start with because you immediately have to think, Well, why am I here? Why do I think this person, in this case you will be able to get me to the other side of where I'm hoping to go? 

Amera: Yeah. It's definitely also where you have to be honest with yourself. Right. I remember I once had someone reaching out to me and she really said Oh, now everyone is doing coaching. So I wanted to try it out myself. So, No. I mean that's what's happening these days. Really asking yourself why are you here? Why do you want to invest time, money? 

Jeanne: And you also asked, what are your specific goals for this program? And this, to me was pretty profound because I think it's so easy when you come to this [00:29:00] space, again, only knowing you want more, but not completely knowing what that is, and then having to define the goals that you set for yourself, because it's so easy to say, Oh, I want my life to be better. I want to be calmer. I just want to be generally in a better space. But what does that look like to you? And this is one of the conversations we had when we were working on one of my goals that I then set which was to have inner peace. And I was really struggling with that. And I would like you to maybe just elaborate a little bit on what you told me. You said to me that we did a series of questions actually, where the essence of it is, well, what does peace look like to you? What does it feel like to you? 

Amera: I mean, when we talk about goals I'm not a big fan of set a goal and then go for it because there is more. It's important to get what you want to achieve when you work with a mentor. So what are your goals? What do you want to achieve for yourself, for your life? Otherwise, you can't really define if that has been a good experience for you or not, or if it's just helped [00:30:00] you on your journey when you look back at the end. 

Goals always have to be specific. You have to know just having a better life or whatever. It's a little bit hard. You can't get clear on the steps you need to take. Or for example, also the inner work, like for example, what limiting beliefs have to be removed to achieve what you want. Also first you have to get clear on what you specifically want to achieve, and then you can see specifically how you can get there. Either with inner work or taking specific steps. You know what I mean? That's why its very important to get very specific on what you want to achieve. 

Jeanne: And then you also asked, I think more towards the end of the questionnaire, what are your spiritual beliefs? And this was a very important one for me and part of the reason why I wanted to get involved in these sessions. And it was, I think, probably the most difficult one for me to answer because I think many of us come [00:31:00] from a background where we are so, I don't want to use the word indoctrinated because that's too heavy for what I'm trying to convey, but we are so stuck in what we think we are supposed to believe and how we are supposed to practice that belief that it really, like you say, is a limiting belief because you can't get past that. And I had so many things that I wanted to say in terms of, well, This is how I see it, or this is how I think I see it. But I was actually scared to say that because I really felt like there's a right and a wrong answer to this. And I was wondering if this is something that comes up a lot for many people.

Amera: Mm-hmm. , I would say it really depends on where you're coming from. And I, I'm asking this question just to get an idea of where my clients come from. Like for example, do they come from, a family where they had a very religious upbringing and this still plays a role in [00:32:00] their life, like as you said, as internal belief and you know, doctrines, they have internalized, or do they have, like for example, already acquired some beliefs themselves, like by doing some, I don't know, spiritual work. So it can be very different, but it definitely for sure plays an important role. So that's why I'm asking these questions and yeah.

Jeanne: I think the last question I want to highlight, which I think really brings us to the heart of this conversation as well, is what kind of spiritual experiences have you had? And I mean, this is really the heart and soul for me at least, of spiritual mentorship. Is that more that you're looking for but you don't know how to define. And when I first came to you, I had some experiences that I was really scared to verbalize because I felt like it was wrong or bad or weird , and you really helped me [00:33:00] see the beauty in that and the piece that comes with that. And it's such an important message for me that I want to bring across in this episode because I really feel like we don't trust our intuition enough and the spiritual experiences that we have enough. And to have somebody to validate that for you and you know, say this is not bad or wrong, is really empowering.

Amera: I'm so happy that you say this and that you experience it like this. For sure. I mean, maybe coming back to your very first question, what is the difference between regular coaching and this more spiritual life coaching? I include all of like these experiences and you know, your intuitive insights and all of this that you brought up in your sessions. And yes, of course. That's a big part of it. 

Jeanne: So we've spoken about really just in an introductory way, why people seek spiritual coaching. We've explored now what is [00:34:00] spiritual coaching and the method that you use. And I've explained a little bit about why I sought spiritual coaching. As I said in the beginning, the repeat conversations I was having about rehashing the past and I wanted to move forward, but it was a difficult decision for me to make because it felt like I hit a ceiling. But I think especially for people with panic disorder, it's very scary to consider something different because you tend to start clinging on to what feels safe to you. You know, it's just how your mind works when you have this anxiety. It's like, Oh, if I don't do this thing exactly the way I'm supposed to do it and speak to exactly the same people, then everything's going to go awry and I'm going to have panic attacks.

So it was a big decision to make, a good decision, but a big decision to make. And that was the reason I wanted to try something different. But why do you think most people really seek spiritual coaching? You know, really focusing on the spiritual part of it.

Amera: Mm. I would say like most of the people, as I [00:35:00] said in the beginning, like they came to a point in their life where they realized there is something more to what we see and feel with our five senses. They may have had some experiences that go beyond that. They might have had some experiences with, you know, their own intuition and maybe also extra sensory perceptions or dreams or whatever symbols they might have realized that there is something more to, you know, what we consider our world around us.

Yeah. So that might be one reason they come to seek out spiritual coaching. And a lot of people also, they are kind of at a crossroads in their life where they see the old is not working anymore and they're at a point in their life where there is a big transformation going on and they are seeking out new ways that are different from the old that they've already tried their whole life, right.

Jeanne: And I think the first session we had, and this is so true that you're saying you've maybe had some kind of [00:36:00] spiritual experience and you want to take it a little bit further. I was telling you about a dream I had when I was sleeping one afternoon and the door to my bedroom had opened and there was a dove, and I could see this really bright light, and I felt so loved and so happy and so excited, and somebody just kind of walked away from me into the light, but I had no way of defining what this person even looked like or any of that. And you gave me so much validation to that experience of, you know, maybe it is time for you. To explore this, you're in a safe space, You're calm, you have security, you have a support system. So maybe this is a message or a signal for you to move on with this road. You know, . 

Amera: Yeah, of course. . Yeah, for sure. For you, it was really these kinds of experiences and you were ready to [00:37:00] explore them further. And looking back, I think that was also the reason why you accidentally found me, I don't believe in accidents, but probably it was the energetic alignment that you found me. Because with a mentor and clients, it's always the mentor, like is on a journey. herself or himself as well. They are just one step maybe further than their clients. So I already experienced a lot of these spiritual things. So maybe you found me like in this energetic alignment to also explore these things. You know what I mean? And then I could hold the space for exploring these things that you already experienced before and then you felt safe and whole to explore them a little bit. That's also true for other things. You know, it's always, you have to find the right mentor who can hold the space because he or she already walked the path before. You know what I mean? 

Jeanne: Yes. So for sure. Yeah. So just for our listeners who may be interested in following this [00:38:00] path or exploring it, could you maybe tell us what are the two or three most common questions you get from how should we refer to people like me that come for guidance to you? Is it clients?

Amera: I always say clients.

Jeanne: What are the two or three most common questions that you mostly get asked at the beginning. The first time they reach out to you? 

Amera: That's a good question. It's hard to define because I really see my clients as so individualized and different they are really true, precious individuals. So it's always hard but I would say one question I get a lot is about what is my purpose. As I said when they're at a point in their life where the old is not working anymore and they are seeking something new. When they know it's time for change, for transformation, they're oftentimes questioning why am I here? What is my true purpose? So I would say that is one big question. 

Jeanne: Oh gosh, that's the biggest one actually. I think that's the biggest life question. . 

Amera: Yeah, of course. Yeah, it's a [00:39:00] big discussion. Another thing is it's often the question who am I really? What? Who? Who am I? Who is the true me. I renamed my business into True You by Design because how do you find out who is your true self and who are you without the clutter, without the conditioning, and without all your experiences so far. Right? What is behind, who is the true self behind? I think that is even the biggest question when I think about it now. Yeah. So I can't imagine, even that's a question I ask myself every day. So that makes a lot of sense. I would even say that's the main part of the kind of mentoring I do, really guiding my clients back to this true self or this part of themself, which is really pure and the true self.

And then everything else follows even with, you know, manifesting the lives that you dream of, it becomes so [00:40:00] much more easy and effortless when you are more in alignment with who you truly are, who you are meant to be, who you came here to be in this lifetime. Yeah, and that also helps a lot with, if you are seeking inner peace, it really helps a lot towards that journey.

And that leads me to maybe a third main topic or question. I would say the clients come to me with is around this self love thing. How can I really accept myself? How can I love myself? And it also goes hand in hand with what I've said before, right? who am I really and, and then it's also easier to love myself how I truly am.

Jeanne: So if we think about this process and we've discussed the three most common questions that you get, who would you say, or what would you say is the characteristics of prospective clients that makes it clear to you or gives you the indication that probably at this point in their lives they are not ready for this journey?

Amera: I [00:41:00] would say it's always about how ready are you to really commit a hundred percent or even more than hundred percent to your inner growth. I think that's the most, most important indicator for if someone is ready. Are you really ready and are you really able to commit to your own healing?

And that can be a real transformational and not always easy journey, right? It can bring up a lot of stuff, a lot of limiting beliefs, a lot of wounding, a lot of hurts that need to be addressed before you can move on to where you want to go and are you really ready and willing to put in this effort to work on these things that come up so that is really something important.

Jeanne: I think what I also wanna just make clear is, and it goes back to what you just said, what is your willingness to commit to this is this really is a space where you absolutely cannot have unrealistic expectations. I think this is a journey and it takes as [00:42:00] long as it takes.

Amera: Exactly. 

Jeanne: There's no timeline. 

Amera: And it's like, it's a, this journey never stops, right? There is no point in your life or even beyond where you are ready, where your journey is over. It's a continuousl journey of growth and development, and you always go one step further. You always go to the next step. 

Jeanne: So for our listeners who may be curious or who want to explore spiritual mentorship, how do you, because this is one of the things I also said in the beginning, I didn't really know where to start. What do you Google? What do you look for? Because unfortunately, as with every industry in the world, there are some stigmas attached to it, and there are unfortunately people who do exploit and take advantage of clients. So what would you say you should be weary of and look out for, and what should you be looking for?

Amera: That's a big discussion. And of course the internet is full [00:43:00] of people who claim to be a coach or a mentor or whatever. You have to do your research. First of all, you have to see who clicks with you, and then I would always recommend to do a session to see if there is a fit between the mentor and the client or prospective client. Really listening to what your intuition is telling you. If you get a weird feeling, keep on with your search. I would always be a little bit skeptical if someone tells you, for example, I show you how to get from A to B in X amount of time. So I don't know it's not my approach. I'm more process oriented and I want to be true and honest with my clients about the amount of work they have to put in this.

But as I said, there are a lot of other coaches and mentors. That also do wonderful, but just completely different work. It really has to be a fit between the client and the mentor. It's really hard to answer this question. I would say for me, it's [00:44:00] always about what's your gut or your intuition telling you. I know that can be tricky sometimes because it's not always easy for everyone to listen to their intuition, but I would really do you feel seen and, and held by your prospective mentor? Do you feel you can open up? Do you feel you can find your own truth? Do you feel you can be open and vulnerable?

Jeanne: I think that maybe the, the it- factor for me, . So I'm so happy to have had you for this episode. As always, I can talk to you forever and probably never get tired, but is there maybe some last words of wisdom that you would bless us with and leave us with before we close this episode?

Amera: First of all thank you so much for having me. It's always a pleasure talking with you. I could also go on forever. So , it's always very inspiring. I mean, that's also the thing for coaches and [00:45:00] mentors, it's always a blessing to have wonderful clients, and you were one of my favorite clients ever .

Jeanne: I was super excited when you invited me to the podcast I have to thank you as well. Thank you so much. And for our listeners, where can they find you? How can they, if they're curious or if they'd like to reach out to you, where do they find you? Where do they go? 

Amera: Yeah, I mean, I have a website it's called True You by Design. And yeah, I'm on social media as well, Facebook and Instagram. 

Jeanne: On Instagram, you're at Amira Rose, right? 

Amera: No. It's a true You by design. 

Jeanne: So what I'm going to do is to put those links into the podcast episode description for all of you so that it's easy to connect and reach out to Amera. Thank you so much for being here, and thank your for choosing coffee. I'm so proud because I finished mine. I can't believe it.